Cheating can you forgive?

Normies · by **Normies** on Mon, Jan 28 2008, 7:18 PM

SweetSmiley22 wrote:I would not be able to forgive. Tengo mucho orgullo, which could be both a good and bad thing!

i am the same way!

I dont forgive and I wouldnt be able to forget. Life is too short to be hanging on to someone who cant be honest. If i ever catch my husband cheating on me, i will kick his ass out the door! Vamoosh, see, ya :horsepoo:

..and dont forget to leave the keys to the car :lol:

lunar · by **lunar** on Mon, Jan 28 2008, 7:18 PM

SHADCHA wrote:"Fool me once, shame on you....Fool me twice shame on me"......

After the first time sure. If after a while you cant still cant figure out that someone is pulling the wool over your eyes in any relationship, dont know what to tell you. :jumm:

nessa · by **nessa** on Mon, Jan 28 2008, 9:03 PM

SHADCHA wrote:You can always forgive, but never forget .....and a trust issue will always be there...."Fool me once, shame on you....Fool me twice shame on me"......

EXACTLY the way I feel about it.

I trusted my ex too much and found out that I was an idiot for trusting that things could change. Shame on me is right! :doh!:

chicano · by **chicano** on Tue, Jan 29 2008, 4:50 AM

I've forgiven before in a past relationship, but never once did I forget, that being led to insecurity.

3lmo · by **3lmo** on Tue, Jan 29 2008, 10:23 AM

mz_lety · by **mz_lety** on Tue, Jan 29 2008, 2:29 PM

augh No! and yes i CAN forget about it cuz anyone to mess me over like that is not worth remembering not even for bad memories

brwn_eyes · by **brwn_eyes** on Tue, Jan 29 2008, 4:03 PM

I don't think i'd be able to forgive something like that from the person i was with. It would just be too much for me to forget about. I'm sure i'd be able to forgive them...buuuuut as far as forgetting about it and being able to move on....not so much!

It would be too hard for me to see them everyday....look at them in the face and know what they did to me...the fact that they didn't feel bad at all for what they did.....and here, i'm supposed to just up and forgive them and move on like nothing....possibly....opening the doors for them to be able to do it again. Because obviously if i let them do it and get away with it....they're gonna think they can do it again...and everything will be cool.....I THINK NOT!!!!

shortcakes · by **shortcakes** on Tue, Jan 29 2008, 11:17 PM

I forgave my ex when he cheated on me and it only led to more lies, more insecurity and heartache. Once the trust is gone, it usually never comes back. This is true at least in my case. I'll never go through that again so the answer is no.

MuchoMuyKrazy · by **MuchoMuyKrazy** on Wed, Jan 30 2008, 1:46 AM

well i gotta say i have tried to forgive and forget in the past and never again :doh!: never again

almarosa · by **almarosa** on Wed, Jan 30 2008, 6:32 AM

shortcakes wrote:I forgave my ex when he cheated on me and it only led to more lies, more insecurity and heartache. Once the trust is gone, it usually never comes back. This is true at least in my case. I'll never go through that again so the answer is no.

Insecurities and heartache....Once the trust is gone, it usually never comes back"

Thank you......is what keep me going, strong....I do not want to get to that point....my question is can be posible to be just friends in the process of healing?

SHADCHA · by **SHADCHA** on Wed, Jan 30 2008, 7:02 AM

almarosa wrote:
Thank you......is what keep me going, strong....I do not want to get to that point....my question is can be posible to be just friends in the process of healing?

A friendships is always possible, but that will have to come after the fact that you have moved on....For example, My ex's and I are still friends....yeah sure we might have ended on a bad note, but Im not the type of guy that can truely hate someone for a mistake that they made. Doesnt mean that I dont remember what happened....But I am a better person for it....I move on and learn from the experience.....Learning is the key factor.....

3lmo · by **3lmo** on Wed, Jan 30 2008, 10:20 AM

you know I guess I could forgive.......only if the vato wassnt bettter than me :jumm:

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