SEPARATION

Lonewolf · by **Lonewolf** on Wed, Jul 16 2008, 9:34 PM

What's your opinion on taking a spouse back after a separation if you knew for a fact that during your separation, your spouse slept with someone else? What's your input on this?

ur1nonly · by **ur1nonly** on Wed, Jul 16 2008, 9:38 PM

uy uy uy.......... thats a hard question! but i dont think i would take them back, but i guess it depends on why u got seperated in the 1st place

iPedro · by **iPedro** on Wed, Jul 16 2008, 9:49 PM

If I love her enough, I suppose it shouldn't matter. I wouldn't be too thrilled about it probably. but I'd let it go for the sake of working shit out. That it happned while being seperated... that might make it a bit 'better' to deal with, imo. If she somehow still had ties with this person, a friendship probably, then that may complicate things a bit i think.

W1ck3d_S0ul · by **W1ck3d_S0ul** on Wed, Jul 16 2008, 9:56 PM

seperation is just like you two arnt together no more but you two are infact married right?

if it's like i think it is, then nope i wouldnt take that person back, because i have an understanding that a seperation is like to basically think and have some space to oneself, not sleep around and desicrate the marriage vows, and such.

now if it was a divorce, then i would understand, because the word divorce to me is basically meaning you two are wanting to go your seperate ways, and have excepted of whats to come.

((i dunno but thats my input on this, Someone else may think diff. and es coo, or have an opinion on what i sed lol and thas coo too lol))

ur1nonly · by **ur1nonly** on Wed, Jul 16 2008, 10:09 PM

^ i agree with her. i couldnt have said it better :Clap:

caker · by **caker** on Wed, Jul 16 2008, 10:13 PM

Lonewolf wrote:What's your opinion on taking a spouse back after a separation if you knew for a fact that during your separation, your spouse slept with someone else? What's your input on this?

IMO no, I wouldn't take them back. Not maybe or probably, but no. Would I expect my husband to take me back, no. To separate IMO is to take time to think, reflect, to decide what you want (to seek counseling, whether or not you want to stick it out and try to make it work). A separation IS NOT time to go out and get laid, or what have you, if that's the case then stop beating around the bush get a divorce and go on with your life and give your spouse the same opportunity. By filing a petition for a divorce you both decide that things are just not going to work, and agree to go your separate ways. Sleeping with someone else while you are married is a lack of respect for yourself and for your spouse, for the vows and the commitment you made to one another. If that is the case then what else is there? One time is all it takes for the transfer of STDs and/or AIDS, for an unwanted pregnancy, something you may not be ready for or prepared to live with. I know I wouldn't want my husband to put my life in jeopardy like that just because he wanted to get laid. If that was the case I would hope he would be man enough to tell me he's slept with whoever and let me have a choice of whether I want to go ahead and have any relations with him or not. Para un puto-I can stay single and find one anywhere.

chicano · by **chicano** on Thu, Jul 17 2008, 5:17 PM

If I love her, I'm willing to go back with her regardless of what happened during the time me and her weren't together. Even though I won't like it and will bitch about it later, I'll still get back with her. If I don't love her, then fuck no I wouldn't.

I will still have to live with it the rest of my life knowing that she fucked someone else while we were seperated, it would hurt so much.

Pika_Guerita · by **Pika_Guerita** on Thu, Jul 17 2008, 5:24 PM

Nop, It just wont be the same and I'm the kind of person to throw it back in thier face later when I'm mad or something.. So, that wouldn't be the best combo... now would it... :doh!: So, I think that if a couple spilts, its for a reason... IMO

Tx_2_Id · by **Tx_2_Id** on Fri, Jul 18 2008, 1:06 AM

put foot to ass like martial arts I wouldn't want to be getting sloppy 2nds from my wife :cool:

Lonewolf · by **Lonewolf** on Fri, Jul 18 2008, 9:57 PM

So what I'm understanding from some of your reads is that a separation is a time to reflect, and no trying out with someone else is permitted, right?

ur1nonly · by **ur1nonly** on Fri, Jul 18 2008, 10:02 PM

^ exactly!
its a time to away from each other to make up ur mind about what u really want, if to be with that person or not, how ur gonna make things work out, stuff like that, but ur still with them even if its time away from each other. but if its a divorce, then fuck it, ur calling it quits for sure and ur free to fuck anyone and at anytime

Nick Nack · by **Nick Nack** on Sat, Jul 19 2008, 4:41 PM

Fuck a "seperation".

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