I read up on some of these topicas que dicen ~> 'if it's meant to be, it will be' . . . Destiny of sorts is what I gather off of that philosophy. Lo que sera sera, in a way. Predestination some may say. I don't know, so I ask . . If you love someone, or you feel like you love someone, and you're chasing for that one and only, you're chasing that dream, and when you feel like you found that special someone, you reach out and you get a hold of that one, and then the real work begins. You then either begin to gain it or loose it, love it more or you begin to leave it. You go thru the motions, you play the game, you soak it all it and drown either deeper in love or you grow colder. Shit comes flying from any which way to put up roadblocks on the relationship left and right. People throw their weight in one way or another. Obstacles of all sorts come out of the woodworks. Your past, her past, your ways her ways. Esto y aquello, it'll work, it won't work, he/she loves me, he/she loves me not. Confusion, drama, ego, all and all comes to play a part, and at the end???

If it wa meant to be it would be?

Or must one really work on it to make it work?

Is it a combination of both?

Or was it that one loved more than the other?

ur1nonly wrote:its hard to know when it will be meant to be or not. pero es como tu dices, the drama, the obstacles, their ways or mine, are all part of it. i always say, u never know what will happen in the future but if both persons feel its meant to be, then stick to it and work on it to make it last.

So if I'm understanding you right, people have to put in work to make it happen and it's not a thing of "fate", right?

ur1nonly wrote:^ yup. las cosas no se dan por si mismas, u need to put ur 2 cents in

Im of the same opinion, I don't beleive that "fate" dictates whether it was mean to be or not.

I feel that even if its meant to be both people involved in the relationship still need to put in the work to make it last and blossom and if either one doesn't do their part the relationship is destined fail.

Idealism isn’t exactly my thing. As I have stated before, we are human beings, mammals, we are born to offspring and propagate in a competitive society. There is no meant to be, there is making it work.... and sometimes under contract if you know what i mean ( marriage)

Normies wrote: There is no meant to be, there is making it work.... and sometimes under contract if you know what i mean ( marriage)

ACARRY . . I finally agree with something Normies said

Nah, just like an employer can hire an employee that can be bad for a certain job, mediocre,good, or excellent. It is the same way in love. While there are a smaller number of people who match with us almost perfectly, they do exist. ( Somehow though, these are the ones who always seem predestined for us, but unfortunately often we do not recognize this until its to late ). Also there are also many of us which settle for anything we can get, once we are not able to get the one we want, and this is where our troubles in love begin. But then again, with most people it takes time to know the other person, but most of time its to late then you find this out , and you then find yourself in an unhappy relationship! :rosa:

Normies wrote: There is no meant to be, there is making it work.... and sometimes under contract if you know what i mean ( marriage)

thats a good way to put it :Clap:

Only in some instances can it be deemed happily ever after. Connection is not alwys meant to be on a physical plane or best explained as tangible. For instance, you can meet someone and find that you are not compatible on a emotional/cogntive level and yet meet someone based on a emotional and cognitive level tha you never imagined. The complication stems from lifesyles and responsibilities that may not be understood yet it does not make the love or attraction less valid. I believe everybody is destined to meet the one they are perfect for yet the the situation may not be the best or what the imagined. In the event it is up tp them to make or break.