Q Hago?!

Dreamy18 · by **Dreamy18** on Mon, Mar 03 2008, 1:00 PM

Hey im 18 years old and i have a 1year old son... i been with my baby's daddy for over 3years now
and just 2 weeks ago we decided to give eachother time, like couple of weeks so now im at my moms house.
I miss him a lot. and we tex and we tak and we see eachother and i realize that its not really taking time off.
i want to get back with him but he says we need more time and i feel like its over like we are never gona be together
again, i beg him so much and maybe he knows that a beg him so much and thats why he thinks q me tiene en su
mano porque siempre estoy rogandole. but i dont want my baby to grow up without a dad

Pika_Guerita · by **Pika_Guerita** on Mon, Mar 03 2008, 2:41 PM

Oh girl...you know you remind me of some I know....MYSELF..I did that whole thing...but I know we did have the same situation but kinda similar. First thing, you don't need to beg him, you need to show him that you can do it with or without him. Then you also need to see that your only teaching your son a bad and not a good once he grows up he will understand why his dad wasnt there or whatever happends. You need to show him how not to depend on other people, by showing him how you picked him and yourself out of that situation.

Now, I know what you mean when you don't want your son to grow up without a dad, I said the samething, but then I seen all the damage my son's dad was doing to me why would I want that for my son. YOUR SON deserves better. You have tio's, primo's that can me a male figure in his life. And your young, and you might find someone later on that will care for him and teach him, yea he might not be his blood but, you know what they say a father is one who parents and teaches.

This is a really hard time for you. Trust me I know. I've been throught it, what you need now is to think about your son and how you can do better for him and don't worry about having a relationship with someone right now.

And with his dad, you need to be straight up with him, you know ask him with out beating around the bush. Whats going to happen, if he needs time or if its over and if its over, is he going to be apart your sons life and how thats going to work out.

I know its eaier said than done, but trust me it will get easier as time passes by and your eyes open and see the real truth.

If you need to talk or whatever I'm here, I know we don't know each other but we can relate and I know when I was in that place I needed someone too talk tooo!

Good Luck

fsolis · by **fsolis** on Mon, Mar 03 2008, 7:23 PM

Give me time,es puro wato! If I had been a woman,and had been told that by a man. I would tell him to take his "I need more time and stick it up his a..!" I would also file for child support right away,go back to school, learn a career and succeed without that idiot in my life! Then after that I would be making good money, he would probably want me back.But right then,I would spit in his face,walk away,and never let that bozo into my life ever again! Usually when a person begins playing games like your guy is doing, it usually means they want out, maybe its time you opened up the door of your heart,and kicked his butt out of your life, if thats what he really wants. Because two can play the same game! Guys love weak dependent women. That is why a lot of women get taken advantage of so much by men. In this life it is very important for a woman to stand on her own two feet,and stand up for her rights.That is the only way a man will respect a her! Unfortunately there are many guys out there,trying to find a woman to take advantage of these days. I met a young guy just the other day that told me that he wanted to meet a girl who worked in a "Sonic or Wendy's," and I asked him "Why do you want to meet a girl who works there?" He said, "because that way I can save more money,and she can pay for my tattoos!" Be careful, even some of the girls who are working in good jobs are getting scammed by these worthless bums! Like I said get a high paying career, and make your own way with your son in this life. Because liars are a dime a dozen,and if they see that they can mess with you,they will often try to take advantage of you, if they think you are weak! Listen to Erica,she is a smart and cool woman,and there are also other ladies here at Juarol that are smart and cool also.And please no more begging,that just makes a man feel like he can do anything he wants with you. You don't need a man who will run at the first sign of trouble or problems in the first place Mija,because thats not a real man! Lots of love!

#1 Put God, your parents and your baby first!Then get a great education and career!

#2 If you don't have a good education or career,may its time to get one while your still young. Even if he does comes back into your life, do not be fooled and forget about a great education,it is the great equalizer for women!

#3 Your young and pretty, so don't worry about guys their will be plenty to take his place.

#4 No more begging,if he wants you back or wants to be with you! Then he has to get his act together and beg you!

"WEAK WOMEN ALWAYS ATTRACT SINVERGUENZAS, WHILE STRONG EDUCATED WOMEN SEEM TO SCARE THEM AWAY!"
"I CAN'T HELP BUT WONDER WHY!" F.SOLIS

ur1nonly · by **ur1nonly** on Mon, Mar 03 2008, 10:54 PM

i've never been in this situation so i dont know what it feels like, but erica and i are friends in real life, not just internet friends. i went through it with her and look now, she sure didnt need her babys father in her life, it was probably gonna be worse. im sure ur family can help u out a lot, so u need to appreciate all the help u can get. other than that, i say u do what erica and frank have said, i couldnt have said it better.

Dreamy18 · by **Dreamy18** on Tue, Mar 04 2008, 1:08 PM

THank you guys for understanding me on what im going through right now.. its nothing easy. Last nite he called me to ask if i could let him see our son and i didnt say no, this morning before i left for school he came to see the baby. me dijo que si podia tenerlo por el dia and he even gav me money for him. he was acting like if nothing had happend . he kissed me and told that he missed me and how he couldn't wait for us to be together again.. yo no dije ni una palabra y solo bye le dije. 30 minutes later he calls me to ask me what i was doing that his friends saw me eating breakfast with my friend, since i go in to school at 11:50 am. i told him i didnt have to explain him anything and that i was busy eating to call me later. He said ok than beautiful, i love you and i clickd on him.

caker · by **caker** on Tue, Mar 04 2008, 1:55 PM

.hugz. Geez Pika-gosh what words can express what I feel? I'm so proud of you. .jumphug. I wish more mothers were like you-trying to get ahead and moving ahead to a better future.
Dreamy18 pay attention and let this soak in but more than that try to understand why it is important. You know my sister ran off with a guy just days after graduation-leaving behind her 3yr. old daughter-yeah, the guy knew she had a daughter-but he hated her just because from the start. Over the years he has hit her, belittled her, and threatened to kill her daughter and my parents-would he do it?! Sad to say-yes, in a heartbeat. Over the years she has expressed her regret, and sorrow for marrying him and leaving her daughter, she has seen him abuse their boys and watched them grow into people just like him. I've watched her daughter grow over the years and swear to never follow in her mom's footstep, I've even listened to my sister advise her on how 'guys' can be. I have always had a hand in raising her daughter-my niece has lived with us for many years now, she is doing everything my parents had hoped my sister would do, she is going to college, is working for a law firm, and is very involved in our community. Some nights I don't sleep worrying about my sister, or wondering if I saw her for the last time today-what else can I do except place all my worries in God's hands. My point is, mija I don't ever want anyone to go thru what my sister and her daughter have-stand up for yourself and your baby-do what's best for the 2 of you-please give some serious thought to what Pika wrote. Good luck.

Dreamy18 · by **Dreamy18** on Thu, Mar 06 2008, 1:05 PM

Thank you for your advice.

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